Ben Affleck is reportedly mortified over his ex-wife Jennifer Lopez’s steamy performances on her 2025 Up All Night: Live tour and insiders claim he’s watching the spectacle with a mix of disbelief and relief.
The tour, which launched earlier this summer, has made headlines for all the wrong reasons. From skimpy costumes to provocative dance moves, JLo’s onstage persona has left fans divided — and Affleck, allegedly, downright uncomfortable.
According to a source who spoke to Heat Magazine, the Argo actor is “cringing” every time he sees footage or images from Lopez’s concerts. For him, it’s not just embarrassing — it’s exhausting to witness.
“Of course, Ben is watching it all from the sidelines and cringing,” the insider shared. “He’s also thanking his lucky stars he doesn’t have to be the one to coach her through it anymore.”
Lopez, who has built her career on being bold and unapologetically sexy, seems to be doubling down on her public image. But Affleck reportedly believes she’s stuck in the past and refusing to grow.
“He feels like she’s clinging to her past image instead of evolving,” the source continued. “She’s trying to be 2005 JLo in 2025 — and it’s just not landing the way she thinks it is.”
Lopez’s choice to debut new music during an exclusive event for fans earlier this month also didn’t sit well with her ex-husband. In particular, one song caught Affleck’s attention — and not in a good way.
The track titled “Wreckage of You”, believed by many to be a thinly veiled dig at her failed marriage to Affleck, left the actor fuming. Sources say he felt blindsided and insulted by the lyrics.
“He was angry when he heard it,” the insider revealed. “It was unnecessary. He’s trying to move on with his life, not become the subject of her next breakup anthem.”
Despite his personal frustration, Affleck is reportedly refusing to respond publicly. He doesn’t want to feed the drama or give Lopez more material for her tour performances. “He’s not going to throw public shade at her,” the source said. “But all his close friends know he sees her behavior as proof that she’s still wildly immature and totally wrong for him.”
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Affleck, who recently sparked headlines with his low-key appearances in Los Angeles, is said to be focusing on his kids and career far removed from the glitz of JLo’s onstage antics. “Ben’s in a different phase of his life,” one insider noted. “He wants peace, he wants maturity, and he wants stability. The circus around Jennifer just doesn’t fit anymore.”
Lopez, however, is known for brushing off criticism — at least in public. But insiders say the backlash from fans and media is beginning to sting, even if she won’t admit it. “She’s very proud, she’s never going to let on that she’s upset,” the source shared. “But of course it hurts to hear people say she’s looking desperate or trying too hard.”
The singer-actor, now in her mid-50s, has also faced whispers in Hollywood circles about whether her star power is fading — and if these over-the-top performances are her way of clinging to relevance.
Some fans argue that she’s reclaiming her power and expressing herself authentically. But others question whether the act is more about desperation than confidence.
Whatever the case, one thing is clear — Ben Affleck wants no part of it. After years of rekindled romance and emotional ups and downs, he’s ready to let Jennifer Lopez take center stage… alone.
And while she dazzles under the spotlight, he’s reportedly happy to be back in the shadows, away from the glitter, the headlines, and the chaos of her high-octane life. For Affleck, the message seems clear that let JLo dance it out as he’s already danced away.
